Let’s face it sometimes it’s hard to meet people, especially when everyone is already glued to their phones. I don’t know how many times I have walked in the hallway and had someone bump into me because they were too busy having a social life online and not paying attention to their surroundings. With sites such as Tinder, Bumble, Happn and Plenty of Fish, it makes it much easier to meet people with such little effort, all you have to do is swipe left or right. However, I feel like everyone could use a little bit of a refresher of the do’s and don’ts of online dating because I found out the hard way this past summer of not driving myself to a date and ending up in a trailer park. Please everyone, learn from my mistake and follow these simple tips.
Do – Make sure your profile and pictures are up to date:
The last thing you want is to be on the show catfish for using someone else’s photos. But in all seriousness if you are potentially looking for a relationship it will make it easier to connect to other people when you have things in common and put your best face forward.
Don’t – Chat for months online:
In a few months time you could see yourself in a cyber relationship on a dead end path, there is nothing worse than talking to someone everyday for a few months and then never meeting up. In this case, keep conversations casual and offer to talk more once you decide to meet up.
Do – Take into consideration what you want:
Sometimes going with the flow doesn’t always work out and what you think you would be okay with really isn’t something that you want. Make your intentions clear from the beginning and know your limits, don’t force yourself to be okay with friends with benefits just because the other person wants that.
Don’t – Carry past relationship baggage with you:
Have you ever been on a date and the only thing the two of you talked about were exes? Let me tell you, it isn’t that fun, and is completely unnecessary! You are there to learn about them and have a good time, not to learn about everything wrong their ex did and how crazy they think they are.
Do – Meet in a public place:
Although your match may seem trustworthy, you don’t want to risk it. Don’t allow your date to pick you up, as this will leave your fate in the hands of a total stranger. Make it a point to either drive yourself there or walk/take public transit and pick a spot that is easy and convenient for you.
Don’t – Send indecent pictures before meeting:
While you may have formed an intimate connection through texting, you don’t really know if they are who they say they are. I mean yes, there is some verification through Snapchat, however that person could screenshot it and pass it off to friends. Think about the repercussions of that photo if it ever got shared, employers do make the effort to look up candidates before an interview. Make sure that you trust the person that you are sharing these intimate moments with.
Online dating can be fun, but only if you do it right. Got any online horror stories? Ever been cat fished? Let us know!